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Famous Brooklyn Couple Does Extremely Brooklyn Thing

Bill and Chirlane are separating, but still living together, and other links to start your day.

9:24 AM EDT on July 5, 2023

New York City Mayor Bill de Blasio and First lady Chirlane McCray push button at New Year’s Eve Ball Drop in Times Square on January 1st, 2017. (Edwin J. Torres/Mayoral Photo Office)

Post-City Hall BIll de Blasio has been on a journey. 

Last month, Bill de Blasio gave a heart-baring interview to New York magazine, where he admitted his 2020 presidential campaign was a bad idea (and not only because he's now out almost half a million because of it), that his staff let him down by handing him a groundhog that he dropped which then died (but he did not murder it), and that he was probably a little too sensitive when it came to criticism while in office. 

Now, the former mayor who will not go away (because he is in your line of vision pretty much anywhere in Brooklyn) has more news to share, along with his wife Chirlane McCray—they're going to separate, but will remain living together (for now). 

In a revealing interview with the New York Times in which the long-time couple explains why they are consciously uncoupling, de Blasio recalls asking McCray why she wasn't "lovey-dovey anymore." This led to a long discussion between the two of them about how things have changed for the couple after leaving Gracie Mansion, and eventually, to deciding to separate:

"You can’t fake it," Ms. McCray said Tuesday from their kitchen table. 

"You can feel when things are off," Mr. de Blasio said, "and you don’t want to live that way."

De Blasio and McCray seem to be processing this change in their relationship status in a deeply healthy and equitable manner, with Bill identifying his 2020 run and inattention to therapy as precipitating moments for their eventual separation. They'll still live together in Park Slope, but will begin to date other people. Our predictions: Awkward run-ins at Celebrate Brooklyn! while they're both on dates, Chirlane seeking out spelunking and other activities that Bill was simply too lanky for, and Bill hanging out in the kitchen when Chirlane comes home with a date, loudly announcing how "cool" he is with "all of this!"

Bill, as always awkwardly candid, laid out some of what he'd been working through over the past three decades with Chirlane:

"For the guy who took the chance on a woman who was an out lesbian and wrote an article called 'I Am a Lesbian,'" Mr. de Blasio said, "there was a part of me that would at times say, 'Hmmm, is this like a time bomb ticking? Is this something that you’re going to regret later on?' So I always lived with that stuff."

Damn, Bill!

As for Chirlane? "I just want to have fun," she told the Times. 

At any rate, we only hope for the best for them and their respective journeys into the dating life. But now that the niceties are out of the way, we are obligated to point out that de Blasio appears to be already radiating distressingly high levels of "divorced dad energy."

The beard isn't back (yet), but the hair? Oh, it's black again: 

In the 18 months since he left office, Mr. de Blasio has seemed at times to be casting about, personally and professionally. Last year, he looked in the mirror and did not feel like himself. "I never anticipated ever doing anything with hair color," he said of his now strikingly dark close-crop, adding that the current shading is a bit more pronounced than he intended. "But I like feeling what I feel."

We literally have no precedent for predicting what risks this kind of energy poses for a dense urban population, but after a summer of smoke, insects, and now sharks, a Bill de Blasio radiating Chernobyl-level "separated guy in Park Slope" energy seems just right. 

It begins: 

Some links that are leading you into their apartment and introducing you to their wife, but don't worry, "We're longtime ethical non-monogamists":

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